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FILLED: HELP! The TV Has Control!

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$50
Submitted by: xmile
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on Thu, 05/15/2008 - 10:54am.

Offer Details: We have two TVs in our house. My spouse and I don't get a lot of time to watch but my children (14 & 10) seem to be drawn by some overwhelming power to sit and watch endlessly. We have done our best to limit their viewing time but alas, it is a huge battle.

At one point I purchased a program (along with equipment) that allowed me to control our TVs through the computer. I could give the kids a weekly "TV Allowance" and even reward them with more time and/or punish by taking time. Unfortunately, the program was a bit spotty and my 14 year old figured out how to crash it. And now I find out that the company making the product has gone out of business.

Now I'm left with the same problem. Policing them every second in not an option. So I'm looking for a way, an idea or product, that will allow me to take back control of the TV in a positive, "life teaching" kind of way. There a products (like mentioned above) on the market but I just don't know which works best.

Please tell me what you do and what products, if any, you use. Please post responses here so everyone can benefit. (I hope I'm not the only parent with this issue!)

Satisfied By: Offer is satisfied when I either purchase the suggested product/service or use your plan.

comment Submitted by kimbaheart on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 6:30am.

I am also a parent and have the same concerns about television although my son is only 2 1/2. Our strategy thus far is that we don't have a television. We did have one when he was born but as he started walking and talking and figured out how to turn it on suddenly he always wanted it on and seemed mesmerized by it. So we decided to get rid of it for the time being.

But since your kids are much older what I recommend is that you purchase the Time-Scout Monitor (http://www.time-scout.com) This product will allow you to give your kids a weekly allowance of time and when that time runs out the power to the tv goes off. You can once again let them earn their TV time. It also works if you need to limit video games and computer time..basically anything that they need to plug in. Each child has a card that they swipe before and after using the television and you have a card for adding and subtracting time. The Time-Scout Monitor serves as the on/off control.

Good luck!

comment Submitted by freestyle on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 3:44am.

The problem is that "good habits" are learned in younger years, until seven it should be done, afterwards it is more realization with parents help.
I think you have to engage a lot of time to change this familiar habits together with your children. They are too old to "work" with tricks, like oh lets go for a walk just in the moment they start to watch TV.
You should organize a family member meeting and talk all together like in a little parlament.( So it is like a serious game and everybodies opinion is important).
Make a list of pros and cons of TV together, ask your children what would be better than TV( it is always easier to accept a self found solution),
offer something like going to cinema or looking a film at home all together , so it is a little attraction and it happens in total consciousness (often TV is runnig for they want to relax and the content is not at all realized, only in a subconscious, unhealthy way). Ask them what is the best way to relax for them and maybe exercise together( observe clouds and imagine figures for ex.). A wonderful thing instead watching TV is to read a book together (my husband did this for years many winter evenings long in front of our fireplace- so enjoyable for everyone).
Ok. be creative, be near to your children, don't leave them alone, react on their behaviour and most important, don't look for a program replacing the TV program, this is parents challenge to fulfil their education job.
Good luck and a lot of vivid ideas!

comment Submitted by chateaudazy on Fri, 05/16/2008 - 9:28am.

Great ideas for getting our children unplugged. And it is not only the TV that we need to unplug them from, it is from video games and the internet too! We take time to all read together on our couch. We all have our own separate books but it is nice just being snuggly and exercizing our brains simultaneously. Now our kids seriously love books.

comment Submitted by freestyle on Sat, 05/17/2008 - 3:20am.

We never had a TV, that one my husband had when we met, we gave away to a friend working for Amnesty when she needed one for some foreigners to learn the language. We never had the idea to replace it, just because we never missed it. Against all friends and family predictions our children never ask for one. Some weeks ago my 15 year old son looked at a Bang and Olufsen Tv with a big "wow, this looks so terrible good and well designed, only I don't want to have it because TVs are time eating machines and I need my time to realize things more important for me!"
OK., yes- I'm nearly bursting with mother proud!

comment Submitted by frenchwriter on Thu, 05/15/2008 - 4:26pm.

Michel

Finally, on January 14, 1997, Collings gave the exclusive rights to his V-Chip to Tri-Vision Electronics Inc. The announcement was made at a press conference in Toronto. It was covered by many major Canadian as well as US TV networks.

The next step was to have the V-Chip commercialized. So Tri-Vision and Professor Collings worked together to put out the first commercial V-Chip product which was a Set-Top decoder that was capable of handling multiple informational schemes and also able to operate with existing TV technology. The decoder was shown to the public at the Canadian Cable TV Convention in Edmonton, Alberta in 1997. After that it was then shown at the US Cable Convention in Nashville, Tennessee that same year.

comment Submitted by xmile on Thu, 05/15/2008 - 3:57pm.

From: wanderingpaedagogus
To: xmile
Subject: TV Control
Date: Thu, 05/15/2008 - 11:59am

Be the change you wish to see in your children. Cancel your cable or satellite television service and go play outside with them.

comment Submitted by xmile on Thu, 05/15/2008 - 3:59pm.

From: xmile
To: wanderingpaedagogus
Subject: Re: TV Control
Date: Thu, 05/15/2008 - 2:40pm

Easier said than done. We tried getting rid of the TVs as you suggest only to find the kids spending more time at friends houses or next door.

Playing with them is not an issue either. A lot of our busyness has to do with their sports schedules. They don't spend 24/7 on the TVs...but when there is nothing scheduled, the first thing they do, is turn on the TV....That is what I'm trying to change.

So, I'm looking for a more practical, balanced approach to the problem.